Andrea Hylen

Day 54 of 100 days of Blogging

Mal Duane, author of Alpha Chick interviewed 10 women for her telesummit: Awaken the Alpha Chick within! Positive Mental Shift: Living Life with Passion and Purpose.

This is an excerpt from the Blog where Mal interviewed me, asking me 4 questions about one of my stories of transformation. 

 (Telesummit FREE. Link to iTunes Podcast)

Question 3:

After experiencing your personal wake-up call what were the most powerful steps you took to change your life?

It took me almost a year and finally I moved out of the house. Emotionally it felt like I was crawling away. To get out, I left my daughter’s behind. No support from family or friends, my husband and I verbally agreed to joint custody. I knew I needed to take the oxygen mask for myself first. To rent a house, set up the household and then resume my role as a mother. My husband manipulated the legal system and tried to prove that I was crazy.

The first few years, we were in the court systems fighting for joint custody. I learned how to use my voice to stand up for myself and my children. I took classes and learned a variety of healing modalities. Attended Insight Seminars that helped me to connect with a new community of conscious, awakening people. Organized book circles in my living room to heal emotionally with John Bradshaw’s: The Family, Julia Cameron’s: The Artist’s Way and James Redfield’s: The Celestine Prophecy. Over time the commitment I had to my own heal myself, helped to heal my daughter’s, too.

For the entire blog of questions and answers go to:

http://alphachick.com/guest-andrea-hylen

Andrea Hylen believes in the power of a woman’s voice to usher in a new world. She is the visionary and founder of Heal My Voice, a non-profit organization dedicated to empowering women to heal a story in their lives, reclaim personal power and step into greater leadership at the dinner table, in their communities and in the world. She is an author, inspirational speaker and workshop leader at retreats and conferences speaking on Women’s Empowerment, Collaboration as a Business Model and Women Healing Together.  Learn more at www.healmyvoice.org

My original assignment in the household was to receive for 30 days. (blogpost July 4, 2013)

For 20 days, my housemates supported me with coffee, laundry, breakfast, and house cleaning. With 10 days to go, I ended the “exercises” and prepared to leave for a three week business trip.

I reserved a seat on the shuttle to the airport. Even though one of my housemates said I could ask someone for a ride and receive, it seemed crazy to ask someone to wake up at 4am to drive me to the airport.  The shuttle was so easy. I quietly slipped out of the house without waking anyone up and felt really pleased with myself with the ease of leaving the house and arriving at the airport. Standing in line to get my boarding pass and check-in my luggage, I was smiling and singing to the canned music playing in the airport, “Girl, you’re amazing, just the way you are,”  Reaching into my purse, I pulled out my wallet, and opened it to retrieve my license. 

Surprise! Shock! Disbelief! 

No Drivers License! 

I felt a wave of fight or flight confusion. Where is my license? Stunned, shocked, I remembered making a copy of my license the day before in our copy machine in the house. Two minutes of frantic searching and thinking of alternatives, I came to the realization that this was another opportunity to receive. I had to call one of my housemates to help me. To get out of a warm bed at 4:30am, to drive to the airport 20 minutes away.A short minute of resistance and then a deep “knowing” that the receiving exercises were continuing in my life.

I called Laurel first. Her phone went to voice mail immediately. Then, I called Damian. He answered the phone and agreed to come to my rescue.

I know that Damian is not an early morning person and getting up early brings out an inner grumpiness. But, 20 minutes later, there he was, at the airport, handing me my license and telling me it was okay and giving me a hug and telling me to have a safe flight and a good trip. We both survived the discomfort of asking and an “inconvenience.” (Part of the exploration of receiving is to know that sometimes a request is an inconvenience that someone is going to push through and support you anyway!)

I am aware of how much the receiving has opened my heart to receive even more.  I am aware of how it has lowered my vigilance center, the part of me that is always at attention waiting to respond. I feel more in the flow of life.

I am also noticing where I still resist asking for support. Where I think I have to do it alone. Where I don’t want to bother or impose on people and how that has been limiting me in all areas of my life.

And now…drum roll, please…Here is the biggest secret I have learned from receiving. 

To really connect with someone you have to be willing to receive. Giving is actually a “push out” of energy. It is a way of sending energy or love out.

Day 52 of 100 Days of Blogging           Guest Blogger Friday on Wednesday! 
(In the flow of the feminine energy…)

Day 51 of 100 days of blogging

Day 50 of 100 Days of Blogging

 

And on the days that it seems too hard to believe in yourself…come back here and check in with us.

I BELIEVE in YOU!!

Day 49 of 100 Days of Blogging

A “Miracle walk” is where you go out of your house or wherever you are, put your hands out, palms up and say; “Miracles, find me now.” And then walk until you see or find one- or more! Be aware that miracles may be disguised or in unlikely places. Use love to recognize them. A variation is to say; “Miraculous people, find me now.” Play from SARK

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Day 47 of 100 Days of Blogging

I am on one of the most vulnerable explorations of my life. The exploration of sexuality. It is vulnerable because even using the word sexuality or orgasm in a blog or conversation brings up so many emotions and judgments.

It is one of the ways that women have been shut down. It is one of the ways that our voices have been silenced. The fear and the power connected to our sexuality.

I work with women who are healing a story, reclaiming personal power and at the core of many of our conversations is our power and our sexuality. (www.healmyvoice.org)

This is the year that I am opening the conversation, researching, exploring, talking with people and bringing the conversation about sexuality to the table.

This week in Los Angeles, Nicole Daedone, the author of Slow Sex is here to give a lecture and a live demo of Orgasmic Meditation. Located in Santa Monica.

Click Here for the Los Angeles Meetup Info 

Here is a link to a Ted Talk by Nicole Daedone.

Click Here

Quotes from the talk:

*Female orgasm is vital.

*It’s not so bad for the men either. (smile)

*…and for the first time in my life, I had access to that hunger that was underneath all of my other hungers which is a fundamental hunger to connect with another human being.

*For the DSM-5, they have defined it hypo active female sexuality desire disorder. Now, I don’t think it’s hypo active female sexuality desire disorder but, I do think we have a pleasure deficit disorder in this country. And I don’t think that it’s medical, I think it’s a cultural issue.

*I do think there is a cure and that the cure is orgasm. But, it’s going to be a very different definition of orgasm than we know.

*It’s going to be a definition of orgasm that actually works with a woman’s body… We have the definition work with what the woman’s body does.

*The Dalai Lama said that Western women will save the world…I think it will be TurnedOn Women around the world who will change the world.

Day 46 of 100 Days of Blogging

Pilot Project at Chrysalis House
Crownsville, Maryland

This is a fundraising request for an incredible year long pilot project. Weekly writing circles led by Beth Terrence, a holistic practitioner (http://www.bethterrence.com/). Monthly workshops led by a variety of Heal My Voice Authors including Andrea Hylen, Founder of Heal My Voice. Supporting women to heal through writing a story and reclaiming personal power to step into greater leadership.

Chrysalis House is a substance abuse treatment center for women. A unique aspect of this program is the opportunity for women to keep their children with them while in recovery. An emphasis on recovery, healing and parenting.

We have a variety of people working on grants and corporate sponsorship and crowdfunding to fund the program and the development of a workbook and training program for Chrysalis House and other substance abuse treatment centers.

The request today is to help us raise $5,000 to get started.

Take a moment to close your eyes, listen to your heart and see if you are drawn to make a donation at this time and listen for the amount of money. Also, listen within to see who you can forward this email to.

If you feel inspired to support this project with a donation, click on the Payment Link today!

Click here to go to Donation Button,

THANK YOU!

http://www.chrysalishouses.org/

We believe that women are pivotal role models in their homes, communities, and institutions. Our purpose is to support them in reclaiming their individual power and awaken leadership potential by helping them heal and reclaim inner authority and step into greater leadership.

Day 45 of 100 Days of Blogging

Mal Duane, author of Alpha Chick interviewed 10 women for her telesummit: Awaken to the Alpha Chick: Positive Mental Shift: Living Life with Passion and Purpose.

This is an excerpt from the Blog where Mal interviewed me, asking me 5 questions. 

 (Telesummit FREE. Link to iTunes Podcast)

Question 2:

Describe the transformational moment or wake-up call when you realized that life change was necessary? For many, it’s a spiritual awakening, an emotional downfall, or a life-altering experience that shakes us awake. 

There were two pivotal moments that were wake-up calls. The first was late one night, sitting in the kitchen cross stitching ornaments for Christmas presents. Surviving on only three to four hours of sleep each night, I had a moment of paralysis. My legs and feet were frozen in place. I couldn’t move. I cried out for my husband to help me. With his assistance, I was slowly able to shuffle into the bedroom. Crying myself to sleep that night, I kept repeating inwardly to myself, tomorrow is Al-Anon. I just have to make it to the Al-Anon meeting. Pushing myself to be the perfect mother, wife, employee, including making handmade ornaments had driven me to the beginning of a nervous breakdown.

The second was seeing a look in my two year old daughters eyes, the daughter who was calling me to “get it together.” I was arguing with her father when I heard a voice in my head say, “This is not the role model I came to be for my children.” I made the decision that I would leave the marriage for the sake of my daughters.

To read the answers to all 5 questions, go to:

http://alphachick.com/guest-andrea-hylen

Andrea Hylen believes in the power of a woman’s voice to usher in a new world. She is the visionary and founder of Heal My Voice, a non-profit organization dedicated to empowering women to heal a story in their lives, reclaim personal power and step into greater leadership at the dinner table, in their communities and in the world. She is an author, inspirational speaker and workshop leader at retreats and conferences speaking on Women’s Empowerment, Collaboration as a Business Model and Women Healing Together.  Learn more at www.healmyvoice.org

Day 44 of 100 Days of Blogging

Desire:

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